Value is in the Eyes of the Beholder

How many “likes” did I get on that last picture?  That is a question many people ask as if the number of “likes” is a magical barometer for self worth or value.  The problem with this line of thinking lies within the definition.  Only “self” can determine self worth and expecting others to determine self worth is counter productive.  Consider the lyrics to the popular John Legend song, “All of Me.”  What if the lyrics were like having a conversation with your inner self?  Imagine saying to yourself, “…All of me loves all of you; love your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections… “  Learning to create a loving relationship with yourself and cultivate a spirit of grace for yourself will help with self confidence and self image.  It is kind of like getting to know your “selfie” and will grow your ability to love and be loved.  Value is in the eyes of the beholder.  When you look in the mirror, what do you see?  Ultimately, the final word lies within you and not with the comments, judgments, or compliments of others.  What lens are you using to see yourself?  Do you need to adjust the focus?  Consider seeking professional therapy as a healthy tool to help you learn how to adjust your lens if you feel your self perception relies too much with what others think.