Friday, October 17, 2014

Unpacking from Kilimanjaro: Lessons from the Journey, Part One

Part One:  Preparation-A Tribute with Gratitude

Climbing Kilimanjaro for a second time after summiting in 2012 seemed like a crazy idea to many.  I was asked, “Why in the world would you want to do this again?” While summiting Kilimanjaro was a personal goal, my ultimate goal centered around creating the space for women to join together as a group in a journey of "being still with a mile" amidst the spirit and camaraderie of leading from within and leading with others. Simply stated, a journey of being and growing.  What transpired for me were ups and downs, celebrations and disappointments, and learning.  It was hardly the yellow brick road!  As I began unpacking from Kilimanjaro both physically and mentally, it became clear that I had much to unpack from the suitcase.  Thus, I hope you will join me in a journey with a series of reflecting and unpacking.

With any task, preparation is vital.  And preparation was two-fold for me, personal preparation and group preparation.  I was excited to have eager people who joined She Summits, were ready for a new challenge, wanted to learn more from our expert guide, Macon Dunnagan, and begin sharing with the other She Summits climbers as we navigated together the packing list, hiked local trails, got to know each other, and bounced ideas off of each other.  I was eager to explore the concept of “being still with a mile” as we all prepared to climb Kilimanjaro.  From my previous experience, developing camaraderie was a huge benefit in the preparation process for a group.

 I felt like my personal preparing and training would be seamless with the experience of the first climb behind me.  But, it was quite the contrary.  Personally, my life was moving at warp speed and the amount of time I had to train could fit through the eye of a needle.  With two months to go before leaving, I found myself in a panic to get in better shape, increase my strength, and push my cardio limits.  I will forever be grateful for the wonderful people at The Exercise Coach in Charlotte.  They walked alongside me with the most efficient training regimen.  It truly was the biggest bang for my buck.  In addition to a weekend hike, my training was only twenty minutes a day twice a week with machines and weights coupled with twenty minutes a day twice a week with cardio.  Pete and Cat would greet me with a smile and ask me about my energy level before beginning a workout.  The machines were programmed and customized to my ability and would stretch my limits accordingly.  I remember one day not feeling too hot.  And Pete, with my permission, said he wanted to push me.  After all, I probably wouldn't be feeling too hot at some point on the mountain.  I finished the workout breaking several personal records!  He not only pushed me, but also pointed out a very important lesson to me.  He said, “You are stronger than you think you are.” 
I held his encouragement very close to me.  When I faced doubt on the mountain in any situation, I remembered Pete’s words.  They were comfort, support, and strength.  The preparation with The Exercise Coach paid off.  Each day on the mountain, my muscles felt alive and strong and my cardio level was greater than the first climb.  I was thrilled when I put my head on my make-shift pillow of a rolled up jacket each night that I was not aching with pain.  It was invigorating to explore the campsites after completing the daily hikes.  In my previous climb, I chose to forego afternoon hikes to conserve my energy.  I was eager for summit night and to zip up in the new parka the folks at The Exercise Coach gave me.  I felt as if they were on the climb with me.  Ironically, his words proved the most valuable with the mental rather than the physical aspect of the climb.
 “There” is only “here” for the moment and the lessons along the way last a lifetime.  This became my personal quote.  No matter what we do well or if we fail, the experience simply becomes a memory.  And I learned three lessons from the preparation phase of the She Summits journey.  First, sufficient might be good enough, but efficiency is the best plan.  Second, you are stronger than you know, so push it!  And third, "be prepared."  Borrowing the scouts motto, be prepared, both physically and mentally, my mindset was to do the right thing at the right time.  Leadership involves being prepared and always considering what is right.  Personal leadership is about what is right for me while leadership within a group considers what is beneficial for all.  Preparing for my second climb was the preliminary work for some of my biggest leadership challenges while climbing majestic Kilimanjaro.  Unpacking: Part Two coming soon...

Thursday, June 19, 2014

The power of ONE. The impact of the SUM.

The power of one is the power to do something. anything.  "The power of ONE" youtube video highlights how one person and one action can start a chain reaction of impactful change.  An experience, a story, a meaningful moment that not only touches your heart, but grasps it with a hold that beckons you to act... http://youtu.be/_QzjqOl2N9c

I am on my way to Africa to climb Mount Kilimanjaro for the second time.  After my first climb in 2012 with Rotary District 7680, I knew I wanted to share the experience with others.  The 2014 She Summits group will embark on the massive mountain in just a few short days.  While I am traveling, my mind wanders to the journey... the journey within, the physical journey, and the journey beyond for each and every person.  What are the personal mountains?  What will the impact be?  How will the journey affect others?  What can I offer for positive change?  The power of one begins within inviting one step towards action which is quite similar to climbing Mt Kilimanjaro.  And, the impact of the sum is endless.  What happens when many take steps of action?  An African proverb states, "Go alone and go fast.  Go together and go far."  We can do much greater things together and it starts with one person, one step, one act, one desire.  Let me introduce you to TanzaCare.  TanzaCare is the result of one.  One teenage girl highly impacted by her own climb up Kilimanjaro and her desire to give back to the community.  TanzaCare continues because of the impact of the sum.  Following the footsteps of many others over the past year, She Summits climbers are transporting school supplies, making donations, and even donating their time to teach while in Tanzania.  I invite you to give us a cheer of encouragement for our climb and a "high five" $5 donation at www.TanzaCare.org to support the children and their desire for education.  Stayed tuned for updates of our climb!  Thanks for your prayers, support, and encouragement.  

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Happy Father's Day!


Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there.  And a very special wish to my dad.  When I think about my dad, many snapshots race through my mind.  I love and appreciate my dad and can recall many examples of his generosity, compassion, support, strength, integrity, and love.  One story, in particular, speaks to the image I hold of fatherhood.  When I was about eight, my dad built a balance beam for  me to practice gymnastics and he "spotted" me as I learned to do back handsprings and back flips.  Over and over, I would incessantly jump backwards with Dad's hand supporting my back.  Sometimes I  landed on my feet, sometimes my knees, and oftentimes, my rear!  Over and over again, Dad patiently positioned himself in the grass, "spotting"me so I would not get hurt.  Many years later, he told me how he would rather build ten balance beams than be the only support between me and the ground as I tried to master gymnastics.  It was hard for him to "spot" and guide me for fear I would get hurt.  But, he put his fear and his desire to protect his baby girl aside allowing me to take the risks needed in order to learn the flips.  Repeatedly, he was there for me as I tried.  He held the space and supported me while I figured out what I did wrong and what I did right.  I eventually mastered the back flips and enjoyed gymnastics for several years.  My dad was my biggest supporter through the ups and downs, failures and successes.  His love was strong, patient, kind, generous, protective, and supportive.  I am grateful for my dad and for who he is in my life.  I am grateful his legacy of love continues with his presence in my children's lives today.   

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Value is in the Eyes of the Beholder


How many “likes” did I get on that last picture?  That is a question many people ask as if the number of “likes” is a magical barometer for self worth or value.  The problem with this line of thinking lies within the definition.  Only “self” can determine self worth and expecting others to determine self worth is counter productive.  Consider the lyrics to the popular John Legend song, “All of Me.”  What if the lyrics were like having a conversation with your inner self?  Imagine saying to yourself, “…All of me loves all of you; love your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections… “  Learning to create a loving relationship with yourself and cultivate a spirit of grace for yourself will help with self confidence and self image.  It is kind of like getting to know your “selfie” and will grow your ability to love and be loved.  Value is in the eyes of the beholder.  When you look in the mirror, what do you see?  Ultimately, the final word lies within you and not with the comments, judgments, or compliments of others.  What lens are you using to see yourself?  Do you need to adjust the focus?  Consider seeking professional therapy as a healthy tool to help you learn how to adjust your lens if you feel your self perception relies too much with what others think. 

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

From High Heels to Hiking Boots... If the Shoe Fits, Wear It!

She Summits- Kilimanjaro 2014. Why in the world did I decide to do this AGAIN?

In 2012 I climbed Africa's largest mountain with a group of friends from Rotary who committed to climbing Kili for a cause. While raising funds was the foremost reason for climbing, many of us had personal goals for embarking on such a journey. I had an "aha" moment when I realized how I was encouraging others to reach beyond their comfort zones and challenge themselves to grow. Yet, when was the last time I had actually done such a thing? How can I expect others to do what I am not willing to do myself? As the story goes, the Kili opportunity presented itself many times, but after my "aha" moment, it was just the right time. When my awareness and desire for a challenging adventure was met with opportunity, I said yes and began training for a trip of a lifetime.

Climbing Kili was a time to abandon my comfortable cross trainer shoes and beloved high heels to embrace my hiking boots. There's something to said about support from your friends and especially your hiking boots! I needed both! Climbing Kili led me along trails, both mentally and physically, I had never before explored. Kili was quite the playground to practice some professional training in mindfulness and centered awareness. It was...
A time to be still, although I was hiking.
A time to relax, although my heart beat at a cardio pace.
A time to explore my thoughts going down the winding road of my mind while embracing the scene of discovery, although I was filled with apprehension and fear.
A time to fellowship with friends and develop camaraderie, although the journey was intimately personal.
A time to accomplish my personal goals, although I was part of a larger goal.

As Max Lucado said, "The sweetest satisfaction lies not in climbing your own Everest [or Kilimanjaro], but in helping others climb theirs." It is the larger goal that has led me to Kili 2014 with a desire to create an opportunity for other women to choose their challenge embracing the experience to live life completely full... full of courage, full of faith, full of commitment, full of compassion, full of fellowship, full of gratitude, and full of life. Discovering the world and choosing to grow through a mindful journey climbing the majestic Mt Kilimanjaro is transformational personal leadership.

Is it your time to say, "Yes"?

Join the journey!

FMI... see the She Summits-Kilimanjaro 2014 Facebook page.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Treasures in the Sand

Have you ever considered the resilience of a sand dollar? These small round flat spiny echinoderms are some of the most prized gifts for hopeful beachcombers. Today, I took a walk along the beach. I had a very simple agenda to embrace the moment, enjoy God’s beauty, and feel the inspiration from being close to nature. I also wanted to test the healing progress of my Achilles tendon. As I walked along the shoreline, I noticed the birds. The small sandpipers were fervently pecking away at the morsels of goodness in the sand. I noticed a pelican gliding just above the waves and also how it seemed to be flying in place as it patiently waited to dive for fish. How does a bird fly in place? I wonder if that is similar to “being still with a mile?” A few people passed me walking in the other direction. A golden retriever seemed to be laughing as he splashed in the water to retrieve his stick. I mentally commented to myself that the couple wading in the water were utterly crazy! Although the sun was beaming, it was 49 degrees and quite windy. I continued my beach stroll and my thoughts settled on sand dollars. Why do people spend countless hours searching for sand dollars and unique shells? What is so special about them? I began to think about how a sand dollar can be tossed by the waves and preyed upon by other sea creatures. Their respite is to bury themselves in the sand for protection. And when their life cycle is over, they wash upon the shore to the delight of hopeful beachcombers. However, it is a treasure and unique find to come across a sand dollar that has withstood the elements and remained intact. Usually, they are crushed by the force of the waves as they topple ashore. Could it be a symbol of courage? Or perhaps resilience? Could a sand dollar be a symbol of hope? And then while my thoughts were dancing in my head, I saw out of the corner of my eye the sparkle of a white round disc lying in the sand bar just beyond a tide pool. I stopped to get a closer look. I couldn’t tell if it was a whole sand dollar, and yet I stood staring… mesmerized by it. I glanced down at the water that kept me from reaching it with my hand as I paused and considered my options. If I wanted to hold that sand dollar, I had to walk in the freezing cold water. Surely, I was crazy! Just like the couple I noticed earlier walking in the water. And then, my perspective began to shift. The water was simply an obstacle keeping me from inspecting a sand dollar more closely. I reached down and pulled off each of my shoes and socks, rolled up my double layer of long johns and yoga pants and proceeded to wade through the water. To my delight, the sparkling disc was indeed a whole sand dollar. I continued to walk in the water, laughing silently at myself, and discovered several more sand dollars. I also noticed that the cold water felt soothing on my heel. A couple reflections about this experience stand out for consideration. First, my mindset completely changed with a 180 degree turn of how I was thinking about the water. Secondly, the sand dollar became even more special because I had to work a little harder for it and make an intentional decision as to whether or not it was worth my effort. Additionally, that effort was only to discover whether or not it was a whole sand dollar. All of the effort was exerted with only hope for the reward. How often do we have a fixed mindset in life? How often do we allow our mindset to open with discovery? Overcoming adversity is encouraging and rewarding. Viewing obstacles as an opportunity to add value can influence our outcomes in life. Take a leap of faith! Step out with hope. And follow your own life adventure with an essence of discovery.

My Adventure on the Mountain via Janice Holly Booth

Many thanks to Janice for inviting me to share my Kilimanjaro journey. Please visit her site to read the story...
http://www.janicehollybooth.com/adventurist/your-story/adventurista-on-the-mountain-new/